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Reframing the picture

ShareTweet My husband heard a beautiful story the other day about a woman just about to embark on the trip of a lifetime to Paris. Fortunately, the leg she had broken just weeks earlier had healed just in time. But en-route, making her way through the airport terminal she tripped…. and succeeded in tearing all […]

He was small, dark and handsome

ShareTweet Grief. It comes in all shapes and sizes. We lost our beloved dog Gus earlier this year. Suddenly and unexpectedly he was gone. The shock was immense. And then the grief set in. You know, that raw pain, that deep wrenching ache that nothing can stem, the guilt that maybe if we’d been with […]

The Day I Died

ShareTweet Death. It’s not something we’re all that comfortable talking about, is it. Still one of those taboo subjects. Perhaps even more so than sex, politics and religion. But as it’s going to happen to all of us one day, I guess it’s something we need to talk about. And I hesitated before writing this […]

Unclipping my wings

ShareTweet You may know him better as Malala’s father. The young Pakistani activist shot in the face at point blank range all because as a girl, she dared to go to school. Somehow she survived the horrific attack. A testament that miracles do happen. And yesterday I was listening to her father Ziauddin Yousafzai describe […]

The Blind Spot

ShareTweet In his book The Emotional Brain, neuroscientist Joseph LeDoux tells the story of a woman. And this one’s a gem. You see this woman had no ability to make new memories as a result of damage to her brain. She simply couldn’t remember things that she had experienced only moments before. The more I […]

Memories of yesterday

ShareTweet Yesterday was an interesting day. My middle daughter and I were invited to speak to a group of young student doctors. Fresh faced, open and with such a beautiful energy. They still have their training wheels on. And it is such a privilege to be able to speak with them, an opportunity to help […]

Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers

ShareTweet It’s quite surprising, isn’t it. That most people don’t realise what happens to their bodies when they’re under stress. Sure we know it feels bad. All that anxiety, worry and fear. And we probably all realise that our muscles tighten up. Those sore necks for example. The tightness across our shoulders. And we may […]

The benefits of emotional healing in cancer

ShareTweet I took my radiation oncologist by surprise one day. She’s an absolutely gorgeous woman, a real breath of fresh air when you’re dealing with the ups and downs of treatment. And when she asked me the standard question about how I was feeling , I took great delight in telling her I felt better […]

Afterwards

ShareTweet Sometimes they need to see the scars. That’s what I’ve discovered. And while it’s a beautiful thing that those around us, those that love us, don’t see the scars, sometimes I really feel they need to. Because those scars are a reminder that we’re different, aren’t they. Not necessarily worse, but different. How could […]

David and Goliath

ShareTweet I’m sorry I never met him. An incredible man. A friend told me that at his funeral last week the church rang out with ‘Jumping Jack Flash’. Very fitting for the celebration of the life of this mad scientist. And she described him in the most beautiful way. ‘Imagine’, she said, ‘a blackboard full […]