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Reframing the picture

ShareTweet My husband heard a beautiful story the other day about a woman just about to embark on the trip of a lifetime to Paris. Fortunately, the leg she had broken just weeks earlier had healed just in time. But en-route, making her way through the airport terminal she tripped…. and succeeded in tearing all […]

Memories of yesterday

ShareTweet Yesterday was an interesting day. My middle daughter and I were invited to speak to a group of young student doctors. Fresh faced, open and with such a beautiful energy. They still have their training wheels on. And it is such a privilege to be able to speak with them, an opportunity to help […]

The Day I Died

ShareTweet Death. It’s not something we’re all that comfortable talking about, is it. Still one of those taboo subjects. Perhaps even more so than sex, politics and religion. But as it’s going to happen to all of us one day, I guess it’s something we need to talk about. And I hesitated before writing this […]

Loving what is

ShareTweet My friend Peter calls it surrender. Petrea King talks about finding your peace. And for Byron Katie it’s all about loving what is. And none of its about being defeated. Far from it. They are all speaking of acceptance. Because when we’re in a place of acceptance, when we give up the fight, things […]

Unclipping my wings

ShareTweet You may know him better as Malala’s father. The young Pakistani activist shot in the face at point blank range all because as a girl, she dared to go to school. Somehow she survived the horrific attack. A testament that miracles do happen. And yesterday I was listening to her father Ziauddin Yousafzai describe […]

The Blind Spot

ShareTweet In his book The Emotional Brain, neuroscientist Joseph LeDoux tells the story of a woman. And this one’s a gem. You see this woman had no ability to make new memories as a result of damage to her brain. She simply couldn’t remember things that she had experienced only moments before. The more I […]

He was small, dark and handsome

ShareTweet Grief. It comes in all shapes and sizes. We lost our beloved dog Gus earlier this year. Suddenly and unexpectedly he was gone. The shock was immense. And then the grief set in. You know, that raw pain, that deep wrenching ache that nothing can stem, the guilt that maybe if we’d been with […]

Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers

ShareTweet It’s quite surprising, isn’t it. That most people don’t realise what happens to their bodies when they’re under stress. Sure we know it feels bad. All that anxiety, worry and fear. And we probably all realise that our muscles tighten up. Those sore necks for example. The tightness across our shoulders. And we may […]

All over (bar the shouting)

ShareTweet It happened about six months after treatment. My 41st birthday to be precise. After holding it altogether throughout the treatment, stoically and for so long, it all caught up with me. The fact that I’d survived. That I had made it through. And I was a mess. Emotionally that is. For a time. And […]

The Bigger Picture

ShareTweet Sometimes I wonder. Because there are things that happen that leave us in awe, aren’t there. The miracle of birth, the expanse of the stars at night. What does it all mean? Where do we end up? The world is full of incredible beauty and answers we cannot know. Some say we are spiritual […]